Thoughts About Women In General

17 Mar


When I was in elementary school, I was very fortunate to experience something historic that I will cherish for the rest of my life. The day was as ordinary as any other. I was at home waiting for my mom to get off of work when she called and told me to get ready to leave because she was picking me up. After getting in her little red two-door sports car, we drove down to a small Pasadena book store where there was a line of people waiting half way down the block.

We parked the car and met up with some of her co-workers from American Friends Service Committee and waited in line with about 100 other people. When I finally asked why we were waiting in line at the book store, my mother explained to me that we were going to see Rosa Parks who was making an appearance to do a book signing.

When I finally got the to front of the line and we were near Ms. Parks, I saw a small elderly woman with a pleasant smile on her face speaking to people and signing books at a small table. She wore big-framed glasses and had her silver hair tied in a bun. When it was our turn to approach her, I didn’t have a book in hand and was very unsure about what to do. I don’t remember how it happened, but I somehow I ended up going around the small table and receiving a big hug and a kiss on the cheek from Ms. Parks. Even then, I was fully aware that I was in the presence of one incredibly amazing woman.

Women are amazing beings and I love everything about them for so many different reasons. But I must say that the trait I love most about women is their undeniable strength. Society likes to make it appear as though men are beings of strength because we can generally lift heavier objects, but that’s typical male rationalization.

The strength that I admire can be seen in a woman who knows her value in a male dominated society. She respects her mind and knows that she is wise even though she was told that men are smarter. She studied the world and struggled to positions of power even though she was told that the men would lead. She overcame the insecurities of men by standing up for herself and demanding equal equity in the benefits of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

As she matured, she began to realize that the nature of man is to subdue that which is stronger and hard to control. But her strength could not be contained. She became Ku-baba in Mesopotmia 2500 years before Christ. She became Empress Theodora of Byzantium and Empress Suiko of Japan. Not only was she the brilliant mathematician Hypathia of Egypt, but she was also Joan of Arc, standing up to unruly tyrants 15th century Europe.

Today’s woman is no less amazing. In my eyes, it doesn’t necessarily matter if a woman is a powerful politician, a successful business woman, or a high profile entertainer. What does matter to me is that she has a strong understanding of who she is, and the self-confidence to be that person. This takes me back to the reasons that I have such high regards for Rosa Parks. Imagine the strength it takes to stand up to the oppressive and racist regulations in a white male dominated society in Montgomery, Alabama (1955). Imagine the self-confidence and the high self-esteem she possessed when she made it clear to the world that Rosa Parks was no submissive, back of the bus riding, pushover. She recognized her strength as a woman and used it to ignite the civil rights movements of which all minorities have tremendously benefited from.

There’s no doubt that my mother, grandmother, and all of the women in my family have had a significant influence on how I view women. They are a testament to the strength of women because if you think it’s easy giving birth to an 8 pound baby, raising him without a father, and sacrificing everything to make sure he graduated from college, then you’ve got another thing coming. And if I had a chance to give a message to the women of the world, it would sound something like this:

You deserve the world. Thank you for being great mothers, wives, aunts, sisters, and friends. You have proven that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to. I know that many of you have been hurt, devalued, and feel under-appreciated; but as many women have discovered before, your true strength is inside of you and comes from God. Therefore, you have never needed a man to validate your worth. You never need to accept abuse or allow yourself to be treated like an inferior being. You must first decide to value yourself as a queen in order for others to rightfully treat you as such. Whenever a man is considered great, of woman of his equal is not far from his presence. Be that woman and don’t settle for less.




“Some say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice
I say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots
I give a holler to my sisters on welfare
Tupac cares, and don’t nobody else care
And uhh, I know they like to beat ya down a lot
When you come around the block brothas clown a lot
But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up
And when he tells you you ain’t nuttin don’t believe him
And if he can’t learn to love you you should leave him
Cause sista you don’t need him
And I ain’t tryin to gas ya up, I just call em how I see em
You know it makes me unhappy (what’s that)
When brothas make babies, and leave a young mother to be a pappy
And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it’s time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies
And since a man can’t make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you’re fed up ladies, but keep your head up”

-2Pac, “Keep Your Head Up”



2 Responses to “Thoughts About Women In General”

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